I’m still her mom. I still have all the desire to mother her this Christmas… and everyday. But how does one mother a child who isn’t here? These are my plans. I’ll let you know how it goes.
Keep Her Memory
- Talk about her. Bring her into conversation.
- Remember last Christmas when I was carrying her.
- Hang an ornament for her. Our amazing friends Katie and Josh had a beautiful one made for us.
- Hang her stocking as a visual reminder that we have a daughter in heaven.
- Donate Christmas gifts to a child in need each year (Angel Tree, Toys for Tots, etc). We will use the money we would’ve spent on Ginny for Christmas. I’ve asked our family to do the same.
- Write her a letter every year and place it in her stocking. My mom planned on doing this since we first lost Ginny.
Do Good on Her Behalf
- Have a day of random acts of kindness in honor of Ginny. I heard of a family who does this and hands out little cards that say, “Random Acts of Kindness in honor of ___. Pass it on!”
- Volunteer for an organization that helps those going through hard times.
Acknowledge My Loss
- Give myself grace about how I feel during Christmas; lower expectations if needed.
- Give myself space to step away if I need to; communicate to family that this might be needed.
- Know this is hard.
Celebrate the Hope of Christ
- Because Jesus came, death is not the end. We will be reunited with Ginny!
- The glory of Jesus is real to us in a new way this year. Rejoice in that!